**Jesus, I Think I Need an Upgrade** I have a folder for everything. Not literally—though give me time. Metaphorically, I’ve spent years building an internal filing system for exactly this purpose: so that nothing, ever again, catches me without an answer ready. Somewhere along the way, my nervous system decided this was the safest way to live. And so I became remarkably fluent in fight, flight, and freeze—sometimes ready to leap into action, sometimes holding perfectly still